tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058548553330112542.post8053015043889015630..comments2023-11-05T04:37:58.776-08:00Comments on Keep in Touch With Mommakin: Best Friends Forevermommakinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18138745092234541349noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058548553330112542.post-15328722781340397692009-02-26T07:36:00.000-08:002009-02-26T07:36:00.000-08:00Dude. I totally feel for your mom right now. I had...Dude. I totally feel for your mom right now. I had what I thought was a BFF who no longer speaks to me because I told someone else I was pregnant first. I suspect there is something more to it than that, but I will never know because, again, she no longer speaks to me and it hurts my heart at least once a week. I miss her dearly. <BR/><BR/>You are so right about girls traveling in small, intimate groups. I've got close college friends - The Cashmere Mafia, and my Temple friends. Totaling maybe 7 really good friends in all - only 3 or 4 BFFs among them, though :) The ones who will always come back and love me "when I'm ugly."smarmygalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03409155646907203665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058548553330112542.post-48252214108540882282009-02-26T04:58:00.000-08:002009-02-26T04:58:00.000-08:00Well, they teach us in Psych 101 that boys seek so...Well, they teach us in Psych 101 that boys seek socialization in a pack while girls seek socialization in a small, close group. I'm still not ready to say, "it's a chick thing, you wouldn't understand..." though.<BR/><BR/>Your last point is interesting - that it's more about dependence/independence than socialization per se.<BR/><BR/>And there is the stereotypical male compulsion to "fix things" (FIX IT!!!). A man wants to fix the problem whereas a woman will (sometimes) just hold your hand and ride out the storm with you - cry with you instead of trying to make you stop crying, I guess.<BR/><BR/>But that's a lot more stereotyping than I like to do before 8 am!!!<BR/><BR/>And Tom, FWIW, "ooo, you make me live..."mommakinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18138745092234541349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058548553330112542.post-57179470055089548782009-02-26T04:38:00.000-08:002009-02-26T04:38:00.000-08:00Hmm. Going by your criteria, I would have to say ...Hmm. Going by your criteria, I would have to say that I've never had a best friend, present company excepted.<BR/><BR/>I've had good friends, but none that have stood the test of time or distance. Most of my friends fell into one of two categories: girlfriend or band member. With each of these, once the relationship/band broke up, so did the friendship, staying on friendly terms but nothing really beyond that.<BR/><BR/>But don't cry for me Argentina. As I've said before, I've not often been a very good friend in the past and so was deserving of this. And my anti-social behavior doesn't make being my friend any easier.<BR/><BR/>I could be wrong, but I think guys tend to be like this more. Having a best friend is like having to stop to ask for directions: can I really not do this on my own?bassislifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10702963863862810468noreply@blogger.com