tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058548553330112542.post6518121298329227012..comments2023-11-05T04:37:58.776-08:00Comments on Keep in Touch With Mommakin: One Perfect Outfitmommakinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18138745092234541349noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058548553330112542.post-63448925337841594772012-08-01T18:47:33.350-07:002012-08-01T18:47:33.350-07:0030 lbs??? YOu go girl! I'm so glad you did thi...30 lbs??? YOu go girl! I'm so glad you did this for yourself!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058548553330112542.post-77215839475129675312012-08-01T18:47:31.805-07:002012-08-01T18:47:31.805-07:0030 lbs??? YOu go girl! I'm so glad you did thi...30 lbs??? YOu go girl! I'm so glad you did this for yourself!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058548553330112542.post-79305344745391877712012-08-01T09:53:45.700-07:002012-08-01T09:53:45.700-07:00"Maybe the perfect outfit doesn't exist -..."Maybe the perfect outfit doesn't exist - but the perfect attitude can."<br /><br />Riteous, indeed. I had thoughts along those lines a few months ago when I went from working from home for 2+ years to unemployed to business casual attire. My WFH outfits were all strictly comfort based, so getting back into business casual meant that I had to shop for clothes that were beyond the gray, fuzzy, formless fabric that lined my closet.<br /><br />It wasn't really fun. I didn't know much of my size beyond the elastic waistband, so I had to try on a bunch more stuff. And I was judging myself rather harshly each time I put something on that I thought would fit, but just didn't. And then I started to wonder... "What number would equal self-acceptance? How many pounds do I need to get down to before I decide I'm good enough? What are those magic numbers?" Oh yeah... They Don't Exist.<br /><br />Therefore, I'm just as worthy of love and other good stuff regardless of what number is on my scale or in the clothes I wear. Right here, right now, as I am. Not when some future goal is met, because that bar always goes just a little higher.<br /><br />You're an awesome lady, Tammy. The last several times I've seen you, you've just radiated goodness. You've got the perfect attitude, and honey... you wear it well!! :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058548553330112542.post-81808187860855742682012-07-31T13:44:29.037-07:002012-07-31T13:44:29.037-07:00Boy, do I have loads to say on this topic! I waite...Boy, do I have loads to say on this topic! I waited a few days to put them all together, but I’m not sure if it helped.<br />First I will say that I think wedding dress shopping is a crucible for self-image in more ways than one. The one that’s most important to me is that you need to try shit on. The wedding dress in my dreams might not look as good on me as I dream it will. The hardest part is not making that a value judgment. The fact that it doesn’t look like I thought it would isn’t good or bad. It just is. Thankfully (?) there are a million more dresses in a million more styles and there will be one that looks amazing on me.<br />It’s funny because I learned this lesson YEARS ago. I’ve been buying used clothing almost exclusively for over 5 years so I have a different skill set. There will not be multiple sizes of an item, so I can’t get attached to it. There might not be fitting rooms (or, more likely, I’m limited on shopping time) so I have to be able to look at a garment and tell if it will fit me (my mom and I went shopping for her dress for the wedding yesterday and I correctly named the size of every dress she picked up). I am aware of all the major brands and what size (meaningless number) fits me. One of the hardest things though was being honest about what worked for my body. I don’t know how many button-ups I tried to safety pin together before I accepted that just because Stacey & Clinton say women should all be wearing these things doesn’t mean I have to. I won’t even guess how many pair of jeans languished in a mending pile waiting to be hemmed before I just decided not to buy pants unless they were sized petite. <br />It is still a struggle. I figured out recently that the reason jeans look good on certain people is because they are a bit too big. I like that folded-front/hanging-off-the-hips/big-belt look. But this weekend I tried on 6 pair of jeans at the thrift store that were “my” size and looked terrible because, even though I know sizes are meaningless, when they are on a label attached to denim they Mean Something. So I found a pair of petite jeans a size too large and have worn them at least twice since I bought them. <br />And, by the by, I can totally imagine you in a smart, nicely fitted slacks/top/fashionable blazer with a funky brooch and possibly a fun scarf outfit.Hello Jodihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16125259095233122819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058548553330112542.post-86633383806372321752012-07-29T18:02:58.789-07:002012-07-29T18:02:58.789-07:00Excellent work! I admire the hard work you have d...Excellent work! I admire the hard work you have done.<br /><br />Pants are hard. I *think* you are taller than I am--I"m 5'1" on a good day. I have the added fun of hemming or buying "petite" of buying crops and calling them pants because they are just a little bit of a flood... Finding clothes that fit is really tough. I think you found a ton!<br /><br />Kohl's and Catherine's are my go-to places to find clothes and pants that fit. Although there's a Catherines at Eastland I like the one up at Polaris--more roomy.<br /><br />Good luck on your quest for that perfect outfit! It will find you eventually.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14459214488565883247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058548553330112542.post-91344585200205396212012-07-29T06:02:18.482-07:002012-07-29T06:02:18.482-07:00Oh, wow! Congrats on losing all that weight! I ...Oh, wow! Congrats on losing all that weight! I think it's awesome. I also suspect that you are way too hard on yourself!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03803472040500529682noreply@blogger.com